The thing underneath the practices
I spent years looking for something I could not see, and kept walking past the thing that was doing the work.
For many years I have been exploring practices that most people would file under spirituality, or energy.
I have done a lot of meditation, including a Vipassana retreat, along with qigong, reiki, yoga, yin especially, and various other things filed under energy work or bodywork.
All of them are good, and that period of my life is what brought me to them. But I think I was looking for something energetic, something that could not be seen. And while I was looking for that, I was overlooking something we get taught about at school and then never think about again: our nervous system.
Every practice I have done, and still do, has an end goal. I think all of those goals run through the same place, which is a regulated nervous system. You do yoga to stretch, to get strong, to connect with yourself or with other people, to relax, to be more present. None of that happens if your nervous system is dysregulated. So I think that is the main point, not the side effect.
The following might sound like a strong statement. I do not think you can live a good life while your nervous system is dysregulated around the clock. I really do not think it is possible.
Dysregulation itself is part of being human. It happens, and being able to go there is healthy. Being stuck there is the problem. It drains you. It puts your energy into surviving something that is not in the room. And it makes it hard to enjoy what life actually is, never mind the small things.
So treat your nervous system as one of the most important things you have. Get to know it. Do not be afraid to feel it, which means not being afraid to feel your body. Give it the respect it deserves, and mostly that means giving it the rest it is asking for, from work, from people, from stress, or from plain physical tiredness.